Wednesday, 20 September 2017



O LORD, RESTORE THE GLORY OF MY MARRIAGE
(A Message of Pastor Dahunsi Olawole)

Text: 
Hebrews 13:4-5
 “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. 5 Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.”

               Be contented with what God gave to you; as a man, be contented with your wife and as a woman, you need to be contented with your husband because God said He will not leave you nor forsake you and your family. Do not be like Jacob in the Bible that was not contented with Leah (his first wife) that God had given him after serving his father-in-law for seven years; he still wanted Rachael (the younger sister to Leah) who eventually led him to idolatry against God. Rachael never believed in the God of Jacob, that is why she brought an idol from her father’s house to her husband’s house which most women do in our society today by scattering people’s marriages and luring the man to serve strange gods against God Almighty.
               Marriage is an institution made by God because He saw that it was not good for a man to live alone. God decided to give man a partner and He said ‘for this reason, shall a man leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife and they shall become one’ which means God respect anybody who respects marriage because He respects and love this institution called ‘marriage’

Proverb 18:22 “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” So it is God’s favor to find a wife and have a good marriage.
Jeremiah 29:6 “Take ye wives, and beget sons and daughters; and take wives for your sons, and give your daughters to husbands, that they may bear sons and daughters; that ye may be increased there, and not diminished.”
The desire of God for every marriage is to have children and live happily together

 Things that brings problems into marriages:

·        Bad foundation - when you indulge in sex before marriage, it defiles the bed of that marriage from the beginning of the marriage. That is known as a bad foundation of marriage and it kills the marriage. I met a sister who was complaining of her husband’s attitude of sleeping around with women. So I asked her if she had not discovered this attitude of her husband before getting married. She confirmed yes but she added that, she was always giving him sex so that he will not go outside even before marriage. Till date, the man is still cheating on her in the marriage. So pre-marital sex contributes to the problems of most marriages.
·        Deceitfulness: this is deceiving each other into marriage; a lot of people do not tell their partners the truth before getting married and this has caused a lot of problems in the marriage today. Deceitfulness breaks marriages, so learn to tell the truth to your spouse.
·        Marrying a man because he is rich or wealthy brings problems into the marriage also
·        Marrying a woman because of her beauty is another reason for marital problems
·        Beating a woman before and after marriage is an evidence that the marriage cannot last
·        Marrying on sympathy or pity
·        Lack of respect for each other
·        When the parents of the man disapprove your marriage with their son and vice versa and you went ahead with the wedding, there will be problems in the marriage.
·        Collecting gifts constantly from spouse before marriage also brings problems that should have been sorted out during courtship. Gifts will blind you from observing and correcting your partner’s weaknesses.
·        Marrying a particular partner as an option after the disappointment of your formal partner.
·        Marrying as a result of pressure from friends, family etc.
·        Marrying a stranger that you do not know. That is what we call proxy marriage; you have not studied the person and you rushed into the marriage.
·        Being forced into marriage also brings problems into that marriage.
·        Too many traditions without God can also affect a marriage.

Things to Avoid In Your Marriage:

1.      Ungodly behavior and attitude: anything God does not like nor support, do not permit it in your marriage
2.      Avoid anger
3.      Avoid pride for any reason
4.      Avoid cursing/use of abusive words
5.      Avoid deceit and lies to each other
6.      Avoid stinginess to your partner, your children and everyone around you
7.      Avoid sexual denial even if you are not in the mode
8.      Avoid arguments
9.      Avoid unfaithfulness
10.   Avoid dishonesty or anything that will tamper with your integrity
11.   Avoid bad habits; learn to be hygiene/clean as a man or woman, look good and smell nice always for your partner to admire
I remember a woman that came to report her husband to me after our command the month programme one morning. To my surprise; I noticed that she had body odor that early morning and I had to shift away while listening to her but she was still coming close to me. When I could not hold myself again and she does not understand why I was shifting away, I told her to come back later and see me. Uncleanliness can push your spouse outside which will result in many problems.

Qualities you must embrace in marriage:

v  Celebrate your spouse’s birthday with him/her
v  Consider your spouse when fixing appointment because you may forget that you have an appointment at that particular time and date.
v  Avoid doing anything without considering your spouse
v  Avoid expecting sex on demand because your spouse may not be in good state of mind/mood
v  Help your spouse in doing some things in the house sometime without being told to do so. Your wife must not do everything in the house always
v  Engage your spouse in a discussion sometime
v  Avoid unkind speeches, language or words to your spouse
v  Avoid bitter and unforgiving attitude to your spouse and your family generally
v  Avoid beating your spouse. As a child of God, you are not expected to fight anybody for any reason including your wife

Close your eyes at this point and cry to God for mercy upon your marriage as you pray the following prayers:
1.      My father in any area I have offended you, have mercy on me in Jesus name
2.      O Lord restore back the glory of my marriage in Jesus name
3.      My father, build for me a marriage that will glorify your name in Jesus name
4.      Any curse that I have issued against my spouse, be cancelled by fire in the mighty name of Jesus
5.      Anything my spouse have done against me, I forgive you today in Jesus name
6.      Any wickedness that I have done against my spouse, be cancelled by fire now in the name of Jesus
7.      O Lord my father, bring back the glory of my marriage in Jesus name
8.      Any implications over our actions in the past; blood of Jesus, nullify them in the name of Jesus
God bless you in Jesus name




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