WHEN YOUR MARRIAGE NEEDS DELIVERANCE.

(Message by Dr. D. K. Olukoya)

Text: Matthew 19:1-6

“And it came to pass, that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came into the coasts of Judaea beyond Jordan; 2 And great multitudes followed him; and he healed them there.3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? 4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, 5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? 6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”

Beloved, our message this week titled, "When your marriage needs deliverance" is very important for all married people and those who want to get married.

God completed everything He needed to do in the Garden of Eden, passed it through His spiritual laboratory and declared that the whole thing was good. But all of a sudden in Genesis 2:18 we come across something that was not good. Genesis 2:18: “And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” This is the beginning of marriage. There is no history book that goes further than this. Verse 24: “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh.” The Bible says: The man shall leave his parents but if he is still tied to their apron strings then deliverance would be needed. It means that it is possible for a man to be married without leaving his parents. The Bible says, “...he shall cleave unto his wife…” wife in the singular, meaning one. It did not say, “his wives.” Also it says, “Therefore shall a man" and not a boy. “… And they shall be one flesh.” This is the foundation of marriage.

THE FAMILY

The family is the foundation of civilization. It is a church within a church. It is a world within a world. It is the building block of the society. The family is the root of both the church and the state.

The family is like a book; the children are the pages and the parents are the cover. Nobody has a choice how he is to be born or given birth to. The concept of family originated from God and it is the school of human virtues. If things go right in the family, if marriages go right, everything will go right everywhere.

FORCES OF MARRIAGES DESTRUCTION

There are powers called, “The powers of marriage destruction.” Sometimes, their work starts in the womb. It does not only start when somebody gets married. Once they discover that a person's marriage will move God’s purpose forward, they will begin to create problems. They are specific powers delegated to pull marriages down.

Many marriages are bewitched and sometimes affected persons carry the bewitchment to church, and it is very obvious. Once you see a couple going to church and the husband is walking fast not wanting the wife to be by his side, you know that bewitchment has set in already. Unfortunately, many people do not attach importance to the issue of marriage. Some rush into any kind of marriage just to appear to be married. It is a tragedy that so many sisters have died untimely due to wrong marriages. They would have remained alive if they had not married. The marriage became graveyards to them. It is sad to know that many people do not really care about the type of marriage they get involved in.

Some rush into any type of marriage just for people to say they are married. If you go to the cemetery you will see many women, seventy percent of women are there because of a bad marriage. A person’s life never remains the same after marriage. Wedding is just for one day while marriage is for life. Many marriages have broken up due to seemingly light issues, but that is the work of bewitchment.

WEDLOCK OR PADLOCK

Many people will help you to organize your wedding but marriage is between two people. The next horrible thing after hell fire is a bad marriage. Marriage is an institution created by God. Marriage can make or mar your life in no small measure. But a good and godly marriage is the bedrock of correct living and success.

There is no difference between wedlock and padlock. Wedlock is padlock – those concerned are padlocked. Marriage is either a holy wedlock or an unholy padlock. The wedding ring that many people desire so much is the smallest handcuff in history. The truth is; it is better to be laughed at that you are not married than for you to be unable to laugh because you are married.

Anyone who enters into a marriage relationship because the woman is beautiful or because the man is handsome is like a man who bought a house because he likes the paint. If a child of God marries a child of the devil, satan his or her father- in-law will trouble his or her life.

When a marriage is wrong, the children from such a marriage are in bondage. If marriages work in our society, a lot of things will start going on very well. A lot of marriages have been caged by the enemy. That is why you find some pastors beating up their wives. The enemy knows that once he causes disunity in a home, that family will not move forward. Also, the devil has a way of bringing problems when couples are at the edge of their breakthroughs and they will start fighting and miss the breakthroughs.

All the things we have learnt in this happy home every third Sunday can be summarized. For the wives must:

• Be subject to the husband

• respect,

• be faithful

• not deny sex

• be the best friend

• support

• be obedient pray with and for

• appreciate

• supplement the family income

• do not nag, celebrate

• marry for life

• cook well

• never involve in argument but discuss

• apply wisdom

• be trustworthy

• praise the husband

• make her husband her hero

• be grateful

• apologize when wrong

• accept unconditionally and never compare him with another man

The man, should:

• love

• respect

• be a good leader

• be head and not headache of his wife

• honor

• provide

• defend

• nourish

• cherish

• appreciate and commend

• accept her person - you were not drunk when you said you want to marry her

• not beat his wife

• be faithful, honest and truthful

• love deeply - it is a command of scripture not an advice

• provide for her future by making her the next of kin in any form you fill

• listen - men are summary people, women don’t summarize. You ask a man how was the wedding? Fine you ask the wife how was the wedding? She will describe what happened in detail

• never deny sex

• don’t expose secrets to third party

• marry for life-no polygamy, if you are pastor your wife is your first convert

• celebrate your wife

• be proud of her

• be a good example to his wife.

That in a nutshell is what we have been teaching here.

These will not be palatable to many people; the truth is like medicine, it is bitter in the mouth but does your body good. The bible did not call us the sugar of the earth but the salt of the earth

Deliverance of marriage is 7-fold

1. By salvation: if “Madam” is not born again or “Sir” is not born again, there will fight, fornication etc. Asking them not to do all these things is like asking a corpse not to smell

2. By prayers

3. By the word of God

4. By counseling

5. Godly advice

6. By knowledge

7. By character re-adjustment: our character cuts across every facet of our life. It involves your ability to rule your desires, lust and needs. A good character is more to be praised than good talent without good morals. We cannot mask our true character. Like smoke, character cannot be hidden. By the time character is embedded under the Holy Ghost most problems are solved.

WHAT KIND OF MARRIAGES NEED DELIVERANCE?

1. Marriages where communication has broken down. I have seen couples that write notes to themselves instead of talking and they live in the same flat. The man would bring his girlfriend home and the woman too would bring her boyfriend home. The boyfriend of the woman and the man’s girlfriend would greet each other but the couple would not talk to each other. When communication breaks down, it is a sign that bewitchment has set in. Deliverance is therefore needed. It means that the enemy has become a third party in the marriage. It is very unfortunate to know that marriages conducted in Pentecostal churches break down now unlike in the olden days when it was unheard of.

2. Marriages where in-laws have taken over, deliverance is needed.

3. Marriages retained by money. The couple stays together as long as there is money. Immediately there is no money, it breaks down.

4. Regretted marriages. These are situations where partners do not have time for one another.

5. Marriages where both parties are actors and actresses. They pretend as if things are alright but within, fighting, cursing and quarreling dominate the relationship. There are many acting husbands and wives.

6. When the marriage has entered into a third party cage. That is the home is controlled by a third party. It could be the husband's friends or in-laws.

7. Shallow marriages. This is where there is no true love. The people involved just got married for some purposes.

8. Marriages where there is an abusive husband and a stubborn wife.

9. Marriages where both parties are committing adultery. The only way a person can be free from this is to remain on fire always.

10. Troubled marriages. These are situations where you have sicknesses, satanic attacks, surgical operations, children problem, lack of peace etc.

11. Marriages where couples beat and bite one another. Baby husbands beat their wives and baby wives bite their husbands.

12. Polygamous marriages. Anyone who is a product of polygamy needs to go for deliverance. All polygamous marriages need restitution and deliverance.

13. Marriages with the foundation of sex before marriage. If a couple had sex with each other before they were joined in marriage, the marriage would suffer attacks from the enemy because they have offended God. The Bible says that marriage is honourable and the bed must remain undefiled but God will judge adulterers and adulteresses. Once you build the foundation of your marriage on sex before marriage, you will certainly have troubles.

14. Marriages to satanic agents.

15. Marriages with the foundation of accidental pregnancy. When people rush into marriage due to pregnancy, there would be problems.

PRAYERS

1. Every strong man of marriage destruction, die, in the name of Jesus.

2. Every problem introduced into my life by the marriage of my parents, die, in the name of Jesus.

3. Every ancestral spirit husband/wife, your time is up, die, in the name of Jesus.

4. Every witchcraft power of my father’s house, release my marriage, in the name of Jesus.

5. Every owner of evil load in my marriage, carry your load, in the name of Jesus.