THE SIGNATURE OF A SUFFERING MARRIAGE

A message by Pastor Kehinde Adegbolahan

Text: Matthew 6:33

“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.”

This message is to give us some tips concerning our marriages. Whether you are married, planning to get married or you are not interested in getting married, you need this message. As a believer that is totally sold out to the scripture above. There are five things that you must jealously guide and fight for every day of your life if you are totally committed to Matthew 6:33 and if that is your vision or commitment.

What are these five things?

1.      Your salvation: Hebrew 10:39 “But we are not of them who draw back unto perdition; but of them that believe to the saving of the soul.” You must hold on to your salvation. The truth is that salvation can be lost; once you are saved, is not eternally saved or everlasting and that is why you must keep your salvation with fear and trembling every day of your life. Your salvation is very important, it is the key that will give you access to the kingdom blessings. Without salvation you are a stranger and an enemy of God. That is why the devil is targeting your salvation every day.

Ø  Being in church is not salvation

Ø  Religion is not salvation

Ø  Bearing a Christian name is not salvation but believing Jesus Christ in your heart, confessing him as your Lord and personal savior and then obeying His commandments is salvation.

Ø  Salvation is an individual thing; if you are saved, you will know that you are saved and when you are not saved, you will know that you are not saved. You must guide it very well because it can be lost.

2.     Your purpose: Your purpose is what gives meaning to your destiny. Once your purpose is lost then rejection is inevitable. You do not exist for nothing, which is why you need to discover the plan and purpose of God for your life and pursue it. If you do not discover the purpose of God for your life on earth, the devil will give you his own purpose and cause you to pursue it.

3.     Your divine assignment: You are bought with a high price to carry out a particular assignment; you are created to solve just one problem on earth just as Jesus came to this earth for one major purpose which is to save humanity from sin according to Matthew 1:21 “And she shall bring forth a son, and thou shalt call his name JESUS: for he shall save his people from their sins.” Jesus did all kinds of miracles on earth and the devil did not show up all the while but when it was time for Jesus to fulfill his divine assignment on earth, the devil showed up through His disciple ‘Peter’ to stop him from fulfilling His divine assignment and Jesus became very angry. He fought and fulfilled his divine assignment. He said to Peter with a loud voice ‘get thee behind me Satan’ because He knew that it was Satan that was speaking to him through Peter and He needed to fight for His divine assignment.

4.     Your association: The company you keep will determine what happens to you and your acceleration or progress in life. You must always keep the right company, do not allow the enemy to pluck you off the right company that God has planted you in. You must jealously fight to keep that good company. For instance, if God has planted you into this ministry (Mountain Of Fire And Miracles Ministries) then you are in the right company and you must fight to keep it because there are powers that are also fighting to take you away from your place of blessings.

5.     Your marriage: God designed marriage for generational blessings. When God put you and your spouse together, He is not looking at today rather He is looking at the future.

I pray for you, all the families on earth shall be greatly blessed through your marriage in Jesus name…

Ø  Your home is divinely programed to represent heaven on earth and not hell on earth. People should see you, your spouse and children as practical heaven on earth.

Ø  Your home is established to manifest the peace, joy and power in our generation but when you look at marriages today especially the Christian homes, it is not so and the questions that borders me most times are;

v  Why is the enemy capturing our homes cheaply and easily?

v  How come some couples who were best friends before getting married are now enemies?

Ø  Jesus told us the answer to these questions in Mark 3:25 “And if a house be divided against itself, that house cannot stand.” Division is the anchor demon that can cause any home or marriage to fail and that home has what is called signature of suffering. When a man and a woman are looking at different directions, of course they will end in different destinations; that is what division can cause in a home.

Ø  As husbands and wives, the key to keep the enemy of your home outside is solid agreement according to Amos 3:3 “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?”

Things That Causes Division in A Marriage:

1.      The issue of money. Our attitudes to money as Christians must be different from unbelievers and we need to be guided in the issues of money if we must be different from the world.

Guides to Follow When It Comes To Money;

·        There should be no secret between husband and wife

·        There should be no cheating

·        There should be agreed budget

·        Spend what you have as a couple and do not go into debt

·        Both spouses should not forget the source of the money. The source of your money is God and not your strength, contract, certificate, skills or your job.

I decree into your life; the money you need to make your marriage happy, receive it in the mighty name of Jesus…

2.     The issue of sex: 1 Corinthians 7:5 “Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.”

Ø  God sees sex as a tool to unit while the devil sees sex as a tool to set attacks against the children of God.

Ø  Sex is a natural need to fulfill God’s command of being fruitful.

Ø  God created sex and it must be done in a godly way.

When sex is to be restricted:

·        When a woman is on her menstrual period

·        When both spouses have a binding or mutual agreement to rest of sex for the purpose of prayer and fasting.

3.     The issue of how to handle in-laws; both spouses must see their in-laws as their own family members, accept them and love them. The in-laws also must learn to accept and love their daughter-in-law/son-in-law as their own daughter or son.

You must learn to fight against the arrows of division in your home.

Prayer

(1)   Satan get out of my marriage in the name of Jesus

(2)  Every rod of the wicked assigned against my rising up; you are a liar, catch fire in Jesus name

(3)  The rod of the wicked in the hand of the wicked, kill the wicked in the mighty name of Jesus

(4)  My father; arise and make my name great in Jesus name